Manifestations That You’re In A Toxic Relationship You Didn’t Know - Until Now
Manifestations That You're In A Toxic Relationship You Didn't Know - Until Now
by Candice Garcia
There are many cases of unhealthy relationship, toxic… as most
people would call it. How can you tell when you're in one, and that
your relationship instead of complementing you… is damaging your
self-esteem? Most people can't tell. And even people are saying that
their boyfriends are being abusive and that there's no reason to stay
in the relationship they still choose to stay. Why? Because they are
convinced that things happen in a toxic relationship happen all the
time in any relationship, as much as saying it that's it's just
normal, which is not right… definitely not.
Here are the signs that your are in a toxic relationship. (1) Your
partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others. (2) While your
partner says they love you, their actions dont back it up. (3) Your
thoughts, opinions, accomplishments, or words are devalued. (4) Your
partner tries to make you dependent on them. (5) Your partner makes
you feel unattractive or stupid that you have changed things about
yourself to please them.
Being around with toxic people is really not a good feeling, so how
one can possibly stay in a toxic relationship? How can one choose to
stay with someone who's abusive and does nothing but harm, physically
or emotionally?
Like any other problems in life, a toxic relationship has a cycle.
First stage, the honeymoon period, then tensions build up… blow up,
then agree for a recon and then over again. One has to put an end to
it, if not, bad things will happen over and over again that makes it
more difficult to get out.
Many people who stay in toxic relationships grew up in toxic homes.
Tendency is that they repeat the patterns of their childhood without
even realizing they're doing it. Oftentimes, they just don't know what
to do to get out of the toxic relationship.
What they must realize is they do have choice, so they can get out and
stay out of toxic relationships. Low self-esteem, depression and
desperation are the tendencies for people who stay in such
relationship. They do need something to encourage them to stand up and
get their life back. They must realize that it's not their fault and
they have a choice to walk away and live a better life.
For some people, working in therapy groups can help them either get
out of or redefine these horrible relationships. The good news is that
some people are able to break the cycles of toxic relationships. Some
of them leave the relationship and form new, healthier bonds.
Repairing the relationship is also possible. Some, in fact, managed to
forgive one another and stay together. It takes a little space, and
even counseling for it to happen. Both should put forth an effort in
renewing the bonds in a healthy way.
Liberating oneself from the dependency is they key to start asserting
what you need from the connection. Do not put the blame to the other.
Instead say "I need your support," "I need your love," or "I need your
truthful opinion." If the other person is not responsive, you should
be prepared to walk and move on with your life.
A relationship must be a two way street, if not, it's nothing but a
toxic relationship. We need companion to inspire us to go on with our
lives. However, if the companion is requiring you to sell yourself
short, letting him disrespect you, it's not worth the try lowering
your standards of what love is supposed to be. You have the strength,
and that strength if put into your hands, you can certainly end the
vicious cycle of a toxic relationship.
About the Author: Candice Garcia, discusses problems in
relationships, including the signs of a toxic relationship [1]. You
can find more topics about relationship on her blog at
www.getexbackmagic.com.
Links:
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[1] http://getexbackmagic.com/manifestations-that-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship-you-didnt-know-until-now/
