Relationship Help - Learning About Love

May 28, 2009 | By admin In Love Relationship Problems |

by Johnny S Laney

We are lucky enough to get into a relationship and find true love and
intimacy. It feels great. We tend to think we should be able to keep
it once we find it, right?

Then we find out that it doesn't work that way. Intimacy and true
love is a dynamic process, not a static emotion. Our feelings of
closeness and love with our mate ebb and flow with feelings of
irritation, disappointment, upset and indifference.

Most of us adults discover that it is easier to fall in love than to
actually stay in love. What, then, can we do to have more true love?

This is a complex topic worthy of the tons of books written about it,
but there are some good guidelines to follow. You've already made a
good step if you have realized that love is not like some medal you
get pinned on your chest that you get to keep. Love is dynamic and
will change.

If you can appreciate that truth, then you can understand this next
one. Relationships are an inquiry into loving. They are an ongoing
opportunity to learn about how intimacy works and what gets in the way
of it.

So, keep learning about love in your relationship. One of the things
you can learn is to be an adult, not a child, when it comes to love.
The honeymoon phase or oceanic love phase of relationships or
marriages will wear off. None of us get to keep it like a medal or
award in a chest somewhere. And when it wears off, that's when you
get to learn about love.

Learning to truly love is learning a lot about yourself and life. One
thing you will need to learn is Acceptance. Accepting your mate for
who they are, not your fantasy infatuated ideal of who they are.

Leaving aside the ideal image we had of them when we first fell in
love and accepting them as real human beings is true love in action.
Not giving up on love because we don't feel deep intimacy at all times
is learning to truly love. Not expecting our mate to fill all of our
inner emptiness and keep us unendingly happy is a start to adult love.
There's much more to it, but this is a start.

About the Author: You can learn much more about this in the free
course 7 Vital Relationship Insights Your Mamma Never Taught You at
Help With Relationships [1] . Johnnie S Laney teaches relationship
and emotional intelligence courses and you can get more here Love
Relationship Help Quotes [2].

Links:
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[1] http://fix-relationship-problems.com
[2] http://4RelationshipAdviceHelp.com/Relationship_Advice_Intimacy.html