Some Of The Most Common Relationship Challenges
Some Of The Most Common Relationship Challenges
by Liz Johnson
People all over the world find themselves dealing with a few common
relationship challenges, and three of them show up the most. These are
fear of intimate involvement with others, fear of dealing with change,
and fear of abandonment. Not everyone has to deal with these problems
in their worst forms, but almost every relationship will struggle with
them at one point or another. Here is a look at these challenges and
what you need to do to overcome them.
Intimacy
Intimacy is an interesting concept to each of us. From a very early
age, individuals generally strive for independence. As we progress
throughout the years, we are naturally drawn to other individuals that
we would like to share intimacy with. Inside each of us is a battle, a
battle for who we are against who we may become. While we do want to
share who we are as people with someone else, we do not want to
jeopardize losing ourselves in the process. If we feel, at any point,
that we are giving too much of who we are, we may become
uncomfortable. We may pull away and refuse to allow ourselves the
opportunity of getting close to another. It is then that we have
experienced the fear that is associated with intimacy in a
relationship.
Being Afraid Of Change
As we enter into a relationship, we may suddenly find ourselves
immersed in a world that is new and unique to what we have always
known. We may find that our basic sense of familiarity is threatened.
Our partner is new, what they like and dislike may not be in line with
what we like and dislike, they may have different values, and even a
completely different personality. While we want to be pleasing to our
partner, we may find it challenging to adjust to changes that may need
to be accepted, and changes that may need to be made. As a result, we
may simply pull away and attempt to stay as close as we can to that in
which we know, we understand, and are comfortable with.
Fear of Abandonment
None of us want to be alone. We may find it challenging to be
intimate, and we may find it difficult to adjust to changes that may
occur once we enter into a relationship, but these hardships are
almost always welcomed when faced with the possibility of being
completely alone. Once in a relationship, we may become fearful that
our partner will leave due to the fact that they are unhappy. We may
fear that they will be taken by illness, accident, or death. As a
result, we may grow emotionally attached to our partner in such a way
that it is considered to be unhealthy.
Overcoming These Common Relationship Challenges
Unfortunately, just about everyone is going to have to deal with these
challenges in some capacity. However, there are things you can do to
make the whole situation easier. If you're dedicated to building a
healthy relationship with your partner, following the tips listed
below could be a big help.
1. Step one for defeating common relationship challenges is to know
that fear is normal and that you shouldn't ignore it. After all, it's
natural to be afraid, and you've probably got some life experience
that tells you to experience fear in certain situations. Fear allows
us to be cautious around other people we don't know well and in new
situations we're not ready for. It keeps us from making mistakes.
However, excessive fear can cause mistakes. That's why you need to be
comfortable with the fact that these challenges are going to crop up,
and what you need to do is face them and deal with them. Don't be
afraid of being afraid.
2. Be honest with yourself and with your partner. If you're willing to
let yourself open up, and you're willing to hear what your partner
honestly has to say as well, you're going to be in better shape.
Communication may be the most important skill anyone can learn when it
comes to maintaining a relationship. Learn to express yourself
honestly and intelligently, and don't let emotion take over. Your
relationship will do a lot better.
Conclusion
There are things that all of us are afraid of, and sometimes, these
fears interfere with our relationships. All the common relationship
challenges noted here are caused by things we fear. Taking the time to
learn about what's emotionally challenging to you and how to work
around them will help you have a happier and healthier relationship.
About the Author: Liz Johnson has written a number of articles on
Relationship Challenges [1]. You are invited to learn her source for
many of the ideals expressed in this article by buying your copy of
The Magic of Making Up by T W Jackson [2] today.
Links:
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