So you’ve probably noticed that there was a sponsored post yesterday. The decision to run that wasn’t made lightly. We literally get hundreds of requests to do this type of thing, mostly from companies that we’ve never heard of or whom we wouldn’t want to do business with.

When we originally received the email propsal, I was going to trash it. But then I noticed that 21st Century Insurance was owned by Farmer’s Insurance Group, the insurance company who provides our rental and automobile insurance. We’ve had nothing but great experiences in our six years of being with them. It was that reason alone that we decided to run the post.

We understand that we haven’t been the most active bloggers around. Our "relaunch" fizzled out and we just didn’t have enough motivation to keep it going. So what’s going on?

Well, finanaces just aren’t our primary goal. As we have better built our financial foundation, we’ve loosened up a bit and have spent more time away from the computer, and that of course means time away from blogging as well. Of course finances are still important to us, but we’re just not interested in the gazelle intensity (thanks, Dave Ramsey for that term) that we had when we were much deeper in debt.

However, it does seem that over the past few years we have garnered quite the audience, and I’m surprised and flattered that many of you actually care about what we’ve been up to. Her and I are going to have some discussions on the future of this blog. To be clear, we’d never shut it down, but may change the focus of it. We’ll let you know as soon as we get a plan.

Thanks for reading, we hope to be back soon.

Moving On After A Break Up, Not To A New You, But For A Better You

by Loraine Riggan

In any relationship, the lack of one, can be the worst thing to
happen. In the aftermath of a break up, more often than not, we tend
to wait and waste our time and efforts trying to find answers why your
relationship has to end. Sometimes, it's too late before we realize
that all these open-endedness and plague of question won't give us
closure from an ex, who's not willing to grant it.

I've scoured almost all relationship books in hopes to find a way on
how to deal with unexpected break up. But really, what I've learned
came from experiences. It came from friends who was once left behind,
confused and broken-hearted. Whether your break up has come quickly
without warning or was a result of a prolonged and bitter struggle,
here are some ways on how to move on after a breakup. Move on, or in a
more visual and definite in what it means, move forward.

Play it cool. The first few months after a break up is usually spent,
more likely, in explaining what went wrong to each and every friend of
yours. Some would jump start talking trash about their exes, this is
definitely not a way to deal with it. This will do nothing but harm to
you and and your ex-boyfriend. It's okay to say how you feel about it,
but take some responsibility. Staying your lips tight will keep your
name clear of drama.

Don't play the victim. In the movies, women always tend to be wounded
and helpless at the end of the relationship. A study was released by
the American Psychological Association, stating that women are twice
as likely to develop depression than men. For your own good, be strong
and stay positive. Easier said than done? True, but feeling lonely and
wishful thinking won't take you a single step away from having a
broken heart. Asking for sympathy just makes you more vulnerable. And
the more vulnerable you are, the more you are to make bad decisions.

Work on you. In the aftermath of a breakup, we often see ourselves
wallowing in our sorrows. Wallowing is okay, in fact needed, but only
for a certain period of time. Life has so much to offer, you don't
want to miss it, don't you?

Refocus your life. After the wallowing, now is the time to set your
priorities straight. It can probably be in this order: family,
friends, career. Give more time to yourself and be open with life has
to offer. Moving on is at its best when realization starts to come in.
Embark yourself into adventures… whatever it is, just count your ex
out.

Break ups are optional. I was once skeptic too. But I've thought about
the evidence out there, that we dont really have to break up if we
dont want to do so. There are, in fact, wonderful relationships that
went through tough times too. Those relationships became strong
relationships. If you want to be together, and your heart echoes that
sentiment, listen to your heart and just make it happen.

In moving on after a break up, loss of hope happens… it's normal and
it will pass. The key to it so stop asking how, what if and why did
that happen. You were hurt, but please do yourself a favor to recover
from it. How much did you spend time analyzing what happened? How much
time do you think it will take to find a new guy and land in a better
relationship? Please do the math.

About the Author: The most painful situations in a relationship you
can ever get is to break up with someone you love. We seek for ways
on how to move on after a break up [1]. Don't worry, there are
things that you can do to pull you from the black hole created in
the aftermath of a break up.

Links:
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[1] http://getexbackmagic.com

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Lessons I?ve learned from those Women who dumped me

by Toby Hardwick

Yes I agree that I?ve been dumped, more than once actually. While it
hurt me each time it happened I admit that I learned a lot from all
those experiences. Here are some truths that I realized from women who
have dumped me.

Things I?ve learned from Women Who have Dumped Me #1: It takes two.

Most of the times with the pain in a breakup, it is very easy to blame
the other person for everything. But the truth lies in accepting that
you had a part to play if the relationship is not working any more.
Take proper care and learn from those experiences so that you can
avoid such things in future relationships.

Things I?ve learned from Women Who have Dumped Me #2: most women need
their personal space.

Women like to cuddle and snuggle. They may seem to always be around.
But they need their personal space too. Men have a tendency to be
possessive. We want to keep tabs on where they?re going and what
they?re doing there. If any woman has ever cheated on you, this
instinct becomes stronger. But, trust is a key component in a
relationship. When you invade her personal space, you send the message
that you don?t trust your girlfriend. This can easily lead to the end
of the relationship.

Things I?ve Learned from Women Who ve Dumped Me #3: You get stronger
over time.

When you wake up in the morning and the hurt?s so real, you may
believe that you will never get over the break up. But the truth is
that not only does time heal all pain, but you will emerge from the
break up a stronger person. As philosopher Frederick Nietzsche said,
?that which doesn?t kill me only makes me stronger.?

Things I?ve learned from Women Who have Dumped Me #4: Take it if it
wasn?t meant to be

Coming to accept that a relationship wasn?t meant to be is a key
factor in healing. If you had started projecting your relationship
into the future ? considering marriage, thinking about children ? and
then the woman you were with broke everything off, consider it a
blessing. It is better to end a relationship that wasn?t meant to be
earlier rather than later.

Things I?ve learned from Women Who have Dumped Me #5: Good things
don?t happen unless you make them happen.

Finally, the last lesson I want to share with you is that you can?t
control what happened, but you can control to how you react to what
happened. If you want good things to happen in the future, you have to
make them happen.

It?s something like getting back on to the horse. Go out on dates.
Have fun. Enjoy with your friends. Go out with new women. You would
probably find a new relationship in them. You may eventually find the
relationship that was meant for you to hold on for life!

About the Author: Toby Hardwick is the author of this article. His
relationship [1] advice site has more advice for your problems at
relationship diy [2].

Links:
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[1] http://relationshipdiy.com
[2] http://relationshipdiy.com

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What Women Taught Me By Dumping Me

by Dan S.C. Reynolds

OK, I'll admit it, I've been dumped several times. More than I'd like
to admit. And while it hurt quite a bit each time, I have to say that
I have learned a lot from the experiences. So here are those I've
learned from women who've dumped me.

1. There are two in every relationship

Often with the pain and heartbreak of a break up, it is easy to blame
someone else but nto yourself. However the truth is that if the
relationship wasn't working, you were part of the problem too. Take a
look at what went wrong so that you can use the lessons for your next
relationship.

2. Give women their personal space

Girls like to cuddle and snuggle and they may seem to be always
around, but they need their personal space nevertheless. Guys have a
tendency to be possessive, we want to keep our girlfriends close to
know where they're going and what they're doing. If any woman has ever
cheated on you, this feeling becomes even stronger. However trust is a
key in any relationship. When you invade her personal space, you give
her a reason to think that you don't trust her. That alone can cause a
lot of trouble.

3. You get stronger

When you wake up in the morning and you feel like crap, you may think
that you will never get over the break up. Not only does time heal the
pain, but it makes you a stronger person. Frederick Nietzsche said,
"that which doesn't kill me only makes me stronger." That applies here
too.

4. It wasn't meant to be

Accepting that a relationship wasn't meant to be is a key factor in
getting over it. If you were planning your relationship, considering
marriage and children, and then your girlfriend dumped you, consider
it a as a relief. It better ended sooner than later when the stakes
are much higher.

5. You have to make things happen

The last thing I want to share with you is that you can't control what
has already happened, but you can control how you react to it. If you
want good things to happen in the future, you have to make them
happen. You have to continue with your life. Go out, meet new women
and have some fun. After a while, you will find another relationship
and if you have followed the advice in this article about things I've
learned from women who've dumped me, you can learn too and your future
relationships may be better and stronger than the previous.

About the Author: And you can do that, you can carry things further
with other ways of getting her back For an English version you can
visit how to get your ex girlfriend back [1], and for a Spanish
version visit recuperar a mi pareja [2] at GiveMyExBack.com

Links:
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[1] http://www.givemyexback.com/how-to-get-ex-girlfriend-back/
[2] http://recuperarex.blogviaje.com/

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How To Win An Ex Back

by Jeremi Hany

Have you just broken up with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend? Maybe
you are thinking how you can win your lover back? Well, almost
everyone has gone through one form of break up or another. A lot of
them chose to move on rather than finding ways to woo their lover
back.

But if you are over playing the victim and want to put some work in to
get an ex back, then there are options for you. Everyone deals with
breakup, but does break up simply mean that you cannot get back
together with your ex?

The fact is, 90 percent of the time there is no reason why you cannot
get an ex back after a break up, providing that you know what steps
are necessary to win your ex back.

The very first step is to find out what are the main reasons that lead
to your break up. Even though there is no way for you to go back into
the past, and you can't undo what has already happened, you can still
gain experiences from the mistakes you have made. Grow form your
experiences and you will make less mistakes in the future.

The reason for the breakup may be a single incident or it may be
because your ex couldn't stand your behavior anymore. Regardless of
the reasons, it is important for you to figure that out so that you
know how to deal with the situation, if it ever happen again in the
future.

You can win back your lover if you know exactly the steps that you
need to take. However, if you want a long lasting relationships, it is
very crucial for you to figure out what leads to the break up in the
first place.

The very next step is to ensure that you do not act like you are
desperate or needy. While people will usually feel like that they
cannot survive without their ex just after a break up, you do not need
to make it so obvious. What you should do instead, is to be strong and
cool. You want to let your ex knows that you are just fine even
without him or her.

By portraying your strength and self confidence, you will have a much
higher probability of getting back together with your ex lover.

If you are thinking to taking revenge or making your ex jealous, think
again. Doing so can backfire. Your ex might think you have really
moved on and give up on the relationship altogether.

Even though you want to let your ex sees that you are okay by yourself
but you do not want to encourage him or her to completely let go of
the relationship, if your ultimate goal is to win your ex back. Once
your ex sees how calm and cool you are, they will be more likely to
want to get back together with you.

About the Author: Get Back Together With Your Ex [1]? View more
videos and articles on Get Back Together With Your Ex. How To Get
Your Ex Back [2]?

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[1] http://www.squidoo.com/magic_of_making_up_now
[2] http://howtogetyourexbacktips.com/

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