I Lost Love ? Every Relationship Has a Time Line

by Toby Hardwick

When I think about how I lost love, I think about Alfred Lord
Tennyson?s quote, ?Tis better to have loved and lost than never to
have loved at all.? When I lost love, I felt the whole world had
collapsed around me. I?m sharing my story in order to help you if you
too have lost the love of your life.

I think it is important to remember that every relationship has a
natural lifespan. In Junior High, that?s about four days. As we get
older, the lifespan increases. But, there are certain relationships
that are right for a period of time and then go awry. Most of us will
only have one great love in our lives. The other relationships will
terminate. That?s why when I say I lost love, I understand that this
is a natural process.

I n my case, we were actually getting closer and my girl friend was
planning to move into my apartment. Her lease was ending and it made
perfect sense in the sense financial perspective as well as we were
spending most of the time together in my place.

I know I lost my love because the relationship was coming hard on me.
I couldn?t handle the situation and I wasn't ready to get more
committed. And then I knew that the life of this relationship has come
to an end. She took the relationship to such a level that it became
too hard for me to handle. There is a significance of living
separately.

Now, I know I handled the situation badly. I went to a friend?s
bachelor party and let?s just say things got out of hand. Word about
the wild antics at the party got back to my girlfriend, naturally, and
she dumped me. I lost love over the events of one night.

I know I wouldn't have behaved that way if I ever welcomed her to move
in. when I brood over the past, I understand I was in no way ready to
take her and the events of the bachelor party were a result of my
retention to more commitment. I couldn't see it head in the way I
never anticipated.

I?m glad I had the chance to be in a relationship with my ex. But I
don?t think she was the love of my life, my soul mate. Instead, she
was someone with whom I genuinely enjoyed spending time. I loved her.
I still love her. But, she is not the person with whom I see spending
the rest of my life.

That period of mourning and brooding, analyzing and repenting didn't
even leave me. I was hurt. I know even I hurt her, but I never wanted
her to leave me totally out of her life. It was hard to take when she
wanted to wind up the relationship but I know nothing could be done
and the damage is far from mending.

I guess what I wanted was for things to continue on the way they were.
But, every relationship has to grow or die. Because I wasn?t willing
to let it grow, it had to die. In every relationship, there is a time
to die. And, for me, this was it. That?s how I lost love.

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I Lost Love " Every Relationship Has a Time Line

by Jeremi Hani

Whenever I think about how I ever lost my love, I reflect on Alfred
Lord Tennyson's quotation, It is better to have loved and lost that
never to have loved at all. When I had lost my love, I was feeling
that my whole world had collapsed around me. I am sharing my own story
for be of help if you too have lost the love of your life.

I think it is vital to bear in mind that every relationship has a
likely lifespan. In Junior High, that is just four days. As we get
older, the lifespan amplifies. But, there are undeniable
relationships that are accurate for a period of time and then go
muddled. The majority of us will only have one great love in our
lives. The other relationships will come to an end. That is why when
I say I lost love, I identify with that this is a natural process.

In my case, my girlfriend and I were thinking about ratcheting up our
relationship. Her lease was about to end, and she wanted to move into
my apartment. As we were spending most of our time there anyway, it
made sense from a financial perspective.

But there is something significant about having separate places. I
know I lost love because I couldn't handle her taking our relationship
to this level. I guess the time span of our relationship was up
because I wasn't willing to become more committed.

Now, I understand I handled the situation shoddily. I went to a
friends spinster party and let us just say things got out of hand.
Word about the wild tricks at the party got back to my girlfriend, of
course, and she dumped me. I lost love over the events of one night.

Although, at the same time as I reflect back on what really happened,
the actions of the bachelor party were really a response to our
conversation of more commitment. I seriously do not think I would
have acted the way I did if I really sought after her to move in. I
lost love because I was not prepared for the direction it was taking.

I am delighted I had the chance to be in a relationship with my ex.
But I do not suppose she was the love of my life, my companion. In
its place, she was an important person with whom I genuinely enjoyed
spending time. I loved her. I still love her. On the contrary she
is not the person with whom I see spending the rest of my life.

I went in the course of a period of mourning the relationship and
scrutinizing what went wrong. I in actual fact was hurt when she said
she sought after ending things. Certainly, I unstated that I had hurt
her. But, I did not want her to leave my life totally.

I guess what I wanted was for things to continue on the way they were.
But, every relationship has to grow or die. Because I wasnt willing
to let it grow, it had to die. In every relationship, there is a time
to die. And, for me, this was it. Thats how I lost love.

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Relationship Help - Finding Lasting Love

by Johnnie S Laney

Ah, to be truly in love. Oh, what a feeling! Movies and songs are
made about it. We all are led to believe that there is one true love
out there and we won't be truly happy until we find it.

So we look hard and finally find someone and it feels great. But only
for a while. The first six months or so. During this period we love
everything about them. We feel totally in love. We feel like we have
found our true love.

But then time passes and this feeling of true love fades. And this is
a problem for all of us. We thought we found our true love and it
felt so great but then little things start bothering us like the way
they leave the toothpaste cap on or off. We also notice that where in
the beginning we wanted to spend all our time with them now we want
some time to ourselves. Is this bad? What happened to our true love?

No, we haven't lost true love. It just changes, and it will change
for all of us! Psychologists have found that relationships occur in
phases. The first initial period of a relationship is called the
"oceanic love" period. This is when we are totally merged. We love
everything about them. It is marvelous!

But all good things come to an end, and research says that after six
months or thereabouts we begin to move into the me-us phase. We start
to separate some. We want our own space or feel hurt by our mate
wanting theirs. We begin to have a few conflicts. We feel the need
to have our own friends or work on our own interests and goals some.
This is normal.

If we didn't move apart some, we wouldn't be able to function well in
the world. We'd be a merged mess with our partner, trying to get all
our happiness from each other, which doesn't work long term. We each
have to move on with our lives separately and as a couple, we have to
take our journeys.

So if you want to keep true love in your life, understand this: Don't
give up on love because you move out of the oceanic love phase. Love
is bigger than that. Physical attraction is just one part that will
rise and fall. True love means learning to love the whole person, the
parts you think are good and the parts you don't like so much.

And understand that conflict will occur even with true love. Two
healthy adults will pull in separate directions from time to time.
True love includes conflict and working things out when they get a
little uncomfortable, not running away. You don't get to keep true
love until you learn it is bigger than just the fun times.

About the Author: You can learn much more about these things in the
free course 7 Vital Intimacy Insights You Never Learned In School at
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Many couples are in a relationship that constant fight and compromise after a certain period of time. They cannot live happily and peacefully together, but they also cannot stay separated. They have to look into what is happening and find out the real reason. Usually the problem is the different personality and personal foundation.

They cannot understand what exactly is missing. But they hope that their partner will be able to make up those missing. If partner’s behavior makes other one suffer, don’t hope to be able to make them change it because in the end you’ll feel frustrated, realizing that you cannot make them change, no matter how hard you try.

Another common reason is the financial, freedom, time, incompatible preference or whatever over time could cause the couple to pass through hard experiences and pressure. These might be secondary reasons, which interfere in their relationship

However, if there are too many secondary problems bothering the relationship, this is a sign that there are many negative points in it, which are not visible. The difficulties they are facing will require both person to pay attention to all the negative points they cannot see, even though they feel that if everything alright, the relationship would be perfect. Everything happens for a reason, not by chances!

The conflicts may be a clear signal that they are insisting on having a wrong relationship. they had better face it and try to solve together.